How ever many times you stumble and fall, learn to get up again. And aim to do so quickly.
How wonderful to do this as soon as you realise you have strayed from the direction you desired.
When you stumble – fall – dive off the wagon – act in ways you thought long gone – speak in a manner that you no longer realised you could – then that’s ok.
Smile. As you would at a naughty child that knows no better.
Be kind. Be patient.
Love. And forgive.
This stuff happens. Always. To everyone.
When you stumble, notice the following:
- Repeating the negative actions as a form of self-harm.
- Following a cyclical self-destructive path that fuels itself.
- Thinking ‘Oh! I messed up – I might as well go all the way and do X, Y and Z’
Begin to interrupt the process. Get up, dust yourself down, and start again.
Discover a radical patience. A kindness with yourself that you would always offer to those you love. Treating yourself as you would a very best friend
Be ok with messing up. And then nudge yourself gently but firmly back in the direction you were headed.